4 Signs of low Self-Trust
Updated: Sep 2, 2022
Feel the need to control yourself or the way others perceive you?
Yup, this one's for you...
All the above are shallow streams that can often be traced back to a singular, deep-flowing river: self-trust.
Self-esteem and self-worth get all the fame. But self-trust is the foundation which self-esteem is built upon. (How could you value yourself when you don't even trust yourself?)
So first, let's understand how these behaviors/traits start from low self-trust...
How low self-trust rears it's head
Indecisive- You don't trust your own intuition, so you have to make sure you choose the right option. You may fear your own self-judgement if you choose wrong.
Nervous/controlling- You don't trust your ability to adapt to life, so you need to be in control because if things go out of control, you may not survive. Because of this, you also cannot trust God/the universe/flow of life or others, because life does not always unfold in a way which you can predict or control.
People pleasing- You don't believe in your own worth, trust your ability to validate yourself or survive on your own. Therefore, you appease others as a way of achieving the validation you don't trust to give yourself.
Overthinking- Rumination, or overthinking, is a self-preservation mechanism, which aims to protect by and manifests as the above behaviors/traits of people pleasing, nervousness and indecisiveness.
Alright, we understand how low self-trust is a common, underlying issue. Now, let's investigate and understand just what self-trust really is...